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[deelaundry]

Did you hear this news story?

Four men lured a woman to a motel room under false pretenses and proceeded to tie her up. One of the men punched her in the face and poured glue on her genitalia as punishment for alleged sexual infidelity.





Oh, no wait, that was Four women lured a man, etc.

My own reaction to this story has weirded me out.

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[nightdog-barks.livejournal.com]

Why? What was your reaction? Somehow it does sound much, much worse if the genders are reversed.

My thought was that a better revenge would have been for the women to tell the guy's wife and provide any documentary evidence they might have had.

[topaz-eyes.livejournal.com]

But the wife was one of the women involved in the assault. Which--yeah.

[nightdog-barks.livejournal.com]

*smiles*

My bad. I meant if the women had told the wife and then not participated any further, leaving the wife to confront her straying husband by herself.

I'd be very interested in knowing who came up with this scheme -- if it was the wife or one of the other women, and the wife went along with it.

[topaz-eyes.livejournal.com]

I meant if the women had told the wife and then not participated any further, leaving the wife to confront her straying husband by herself.

That would have been the mature way to deal with it. If he'd cheated on all of them at once, maybe they thought gluing his penis would be the only way he'd learn. It's humiliating enough to know your husband's cheated, but with 3 other women, I'd imagine that humiliation would be multiplied? I really don't know.

[deelaundry.livejournal.com]

My reaction was to find it amusing and to feel the victim got what he deserved.

And I am weirded out by that. There is no way I would accept an identical attack by men on a woman. No way. So why wasn't I appalled by this attack by women? Is it because women's anger is somehow "cute"? I'm disturbed by this.

[nightdog-barks.livejournal.com]

I think perhaps part of the reason is that we see stories of male attacks on women in the name of "honor" and "retribution" and "revenge" almost every day -- men gang-raping women, whipping and beating them, throwing acid in their faces, and it's almost always for some perceived transgression against their sexual place in society. This guy slept around (allegedly), lied to and presumably left all four women humiliated, and was punished for it.

It was wrong -- obviously people aren't supposed to kidnap and assault other people, and actually, having an affair isn't a criminal offense, but I don't think your reaction was out of line. People feel what they feel.

[skull-bearer.livejournal.com]

Plus, you know, the guy doesn't sound as though he'd really been hurt. Humiliated yes, but actually hurt? Unless I've missed something, being tied up and having your dick glued to your stomach is not even in the same ball-park as being rapes or havign acid thrown at you.

[deelaundry.livejournal.com]

He was punched in the face, so I would have to assume that hurt.

It's not as bad as being raped or having acid thrown at you, no. I wasn't mentally comparing it to those things, though; I was comparing it to the exact same events but perpetrated by men on a woman.