An Early AM Question

[deelaundry]

Do you think the male nurse House spoke to in episode 6-8 (the Thanksgiving ep) was gay? Why or why not?

I know some people on my f-list thought the male nurse House spoke to in episode 6-8 (the Thanksgiving ep) was gay. If you thought this, what specifically made you think it?

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ETA: I have turned off comment tracking for this post. If you have anything to say to me, you can send me a PM or direct email. If anyone says anything offensive to you in this post, you can let me know directly.

Comments

[deelaundry.livejournal.com]

I wouldn't be surprised by you saying you don't want to discuss it, if you weren't already in my post, discussing people who are discussing it. That suggests to me, fairly or unfairly, that you still have energy for the issue.

I don't want to open your wounds or stomp on your feelings. I want to understand my world and what's in it, and continue to try to grow and be a better person. I am not very good at nuance, or reading people, and so I ask questions to figure out things when I can't do that by inference.

[spoggly.livejournal.com]

I have limited fucking energy for it! I make the time and energy to discuss what I think is important; if there's none left over, no, I don't particularly care to use energy from the rest of my emotional life on some character from a show I have decided to stop watching.

This is not a safe space for me. I engaged on it because you have, in the past, expressed a desire for more information, and in the beginning of this thread I tried to direct you to an interesting resource.

So, that'll show me, I suppose.

[deelaundry.livejournal.com]

I am genuinely sorry this is not a safe space for you. That upsets me more than you'll ever know. I appreciate your mention of a reference source.

[spoggly.livejournal.com]

I can understand that it upsets you, because thinking about hearing the same thing said by someone to me is immensely upsetting.

I do value you as a person, and even though we have clashed about lgbtq issues before, I have always thought that, as evidenced by your (relatively) recent post about queer struggles, there is definitely space for conversation.

I am not going to lie or side-step the issue, this whole post has been intensely triggering and hurtful for me, to the point of wanting to cry from frustration, but once both of us have had a chance to sit back from it, perhaps we can discuss further.

In the meantime though, I am going to reiterate that this is not a safe space for me, and it is a place that I come to only when I feel like I have the emotional energy to deal with potentially offensive things, and that I do not really have confidence in you as the moderator of this space.

I mean everything I said before this, and I understand how overwhelming it can be to have people point out what is going wrong to you, but it's not possible to hide from the problem forever.

I hope that this is clear to you, and I am open to being asked for clarification, as mostly always.