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Back Around, Hi!
Jan. 30th, 2010 01:50 pmHi, I'm back. Offline issues are not totally taken care of, but duct tape has been applied (not a metaphor) and we're good for now.
Questions were raised in the past few weeks about how I moderate discussions that happen on my LJ. My approach has been, as described in my profile: "This journal is written by an adult, intended for people who (in general) think like adults. It includes material labeled as NC-17. It includes grown-up conversations about grown-up things. Children will likely find the content boring and are encouraged to go elsewhere."
So, if two (or more) people get into a back-and-forth, my thought has been, "They're adults; I'm going to leave them to work it out between themselves." This is for two reasons: 1) to respect them as individuals, and 2) because I'm not skilled in mediation. Pretty poor at it, in fact. I mis-read situations and tone, and bring my own emotion into situations where it has no place. I also can't process emotion as quickly as most people; I need to think about it.
I can see where that approach has caused or fostered animosity. On the other hand, anger is a legitimate emotion, too, that is often well-deserved.
With that in mind, I'm going to take a new approach to moderation on my LJ.
Personal insults to a commenter on my LJ are not allowed. If I think a conversation includes a personal insult, I will screen comments and ask the person/people involved to re-consider or take it elsewhere.
Note: Saying "Your comment is wrong because XYZ" is not personal. Saying "You're an idiot for thinking that" is personal. Saying "That is sexist!" is not personal. If the person responds, "It's not sexist!" that's not personal, either.
Generalizations will not be considered personal, unless specifically aimed at someone you know is in that group (or so egregious as to be considered hate speech). An example of a generalization might be "House/Wilson fans are so stupid; Fox will never make that crap canon." It's not personal so I won't screen it. But you should be prepared that I or someone else will challenge you on it. And if that discussion gets personal, then it'll be screened.
One last, very important thing: This is not a "Racists and Homophobes Get Out of Jail Free" card. If you think any type of person is worth less than any other, you are not welcome here.
Everyone else: ♥ ♥ ♥
Questions were raised in the past few weeks about how I moderate discussions that happen on my LJ. My approach has been, as described in my profile: "This journal is written by an adult, intended for people who (in general) think like adults. It includes material labeled as NC-17. It includes grown-up conversations about grown-up things. Children will likely find the content boring and are encouraged to go elsewhere."
So, if two (or more) people get into a back-and-forth, my thought has been, "They're adults; I'm going to leave them to work it out between themselves." This is for two reasons: 1) to respect them as individuals, and 2) because I'm not skilled in mediation. Pretty poor at it, in fact. I mis-read situations and tone, and bring my own emotion into situations where it has no place. I also can't process emotion as quickly as most people; I need to think about it.
I can see where that approach has caused or fostered animosity. On the other hand, anger is a legitimate emotion, too, that is often well-deserved.
With that in mind, I'm going to take a new approach to moderation on my LJ.
Personal insults to a commenter on my LJ are not allowed. If I think a conversation includes a personal insult, I will screen comments and ask the person/people involved to re-consider or take it elsewhere.
Note: Saying "Your comment is wrong because XYZ" is not personal. Saying "You're an idiot for thinking that" is personal. Saying "That is sexist!" is not personal. If the person responds, "It's not sexist!" that's not personal, either.
Generalizations will not be considered personal, unless specifically aimed at someone you know is in that group (or so egregious as to be considered hate speech). An example of a generalization might be "House/Wilson fans are so stupid; Fox will never make that crap canon." It's not personal so I won't screen it. But you should be prepared that I or someone else will challenge you on it. And if that discussion gets personal, then it'll be screened.
One last, very important thing: This is not a "Racists and Homophobes Get Out of Jail Free" card. If you think any type of person is worth less than any other, you are not welcome here.
Everyone else: ♥ ♥ ♥